Who’s for lemonade?
SOMETIMES WHEN MY PAIN LEVELS ARE HIGH, I allow the grip of self-pity to tighten and I think of the (perceived) negatives in my life. I start to feel hard done by and I find myself focusing on what I DO NOT have.
I ruminate on how illness changed the course of my life and prevented me following a certain path (just one path that wasn’t pre-set anyway) and I see the world through the eyes of lack and limitation…
If only I hadn’t been robbed of my health these past two decades I would be more financially secure and would own my own property, I’d be able to work out more, develop my physique and train to become a high level martial artist as I had once dreamed about…I’d certainly be less dependent on others for my survival and I’d be well enough to start a family…the list goes on!
Then I gives myself a right good slap like they do in the old movies (sometimes a bit of tough love is necessary isn’t it!?) and I remind myself what I DO have; a brother who loves me, great friends, the good fortune to live in a beautiful safe part of the world, a job I love and a roof over my head.
Life has a habit of presenting us with circumstances out with our control. And it is entirely up to us how we respond to the hardship and adversity. We can either become bitter because it’s unfair and things haven’t worked out as we had hoped, or we can choose to create a life of meaning with the hand we have been dealt.
As the saying goes, ‘if life gives you lemons…make lemonade!’
I don’t know about you, but when my time is up I want to look back on my life and say “you know what, I made a difference”. I want to be able to say I did the best I could despite my circumstances.
I may never have or be the things above. But this does not mean I cannot become the best version of myself. It simply means I must find another path to access my unlimited potential and use the adversity to learn and grow in ways I never thought possible.
So, what’s the point in all this?
I have a question for you (actually I have two)…
WHAT HAS LIFE GIVEN YOU? And what do you intend to do about it?
Whatever your circumstances, you CAN be the person you want to be and every passing moment is a new opportunity to become that person.